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Captains Chair:

People judge us by our actions, not our intentions. They cannot see your thoughts, only your behaviors.

This is a saying that I have heard for twenty years in the addiction world, and it is something that I recently had to ponder. I have said that I was going to change some things in my life, but was I willing to make the changes necessary to show the world that I was going to do this?

I opened a new office in Port Charlotte, Florida and as with most things in life, it did not go totally as planned. Delays with getting the office ready, phone hassles, and finishing a prior road commitment, pushed it back. Finally the ad ran and the doors opened. It is going as planned. The fact it was only a month off schedule worked out for the best, it gave me time to ease back into the “office” flow.

Letting go of old patterns can be difficult, as we all know. Even though we tell our clients this all the time, when was the last time you made a major shift in your life? Letting go of the road, as much as I complained about it, was not easy. Fear of the unknown, was bigger than the hassles of the road. (Notice the submodalities). I had to magnify the “hassles” and reframe the new unknown, into an adventure and a challenge. I am a competitor and like challenges.

The next step is another facility here in Florida and then a training center where I can set up a Sports & Performance Hypnosis/NLP training institute. This will be where people can come in and train in various aspects of hypnosis/NLP and have it attached to an office set up that works well. I plan on bringing in the best people to train in their specialties. If you want to train with the best, let us know.

I also believe in the concept of hypnosis as a community, and I got the wonderful opportunity to show that. I was honored to be asked to fill in for Don Mottin, teaching Sports and Performance Hypnosis for the National Guild of Hypnotists, in St. Louis, Boston, and New York. I will also be teaching this in Florida December 6 in Ft. Lauderdale, and December 7 in Orlando. (See marketing for details.) Pushing the edge in human performance is one of my passions, and I get to share that with a wider audience. Lets us all send Don Mottin positive thoughts to overcome his recent set back. Knowing his energy, he will be back to his old self in no time, and “That’s a good thing!”

Special Congratulations to Stephanie Labanowski, she won her town council seat in East Hartford, Connecticut. Way to go! Keep up the good work!

From the Road:

Last month I was in Chicago to teach at a conference that unfortunately, due to scheduling, did not work out. However as Ormand McGill would say, if your intention is good, good things happen. I had the opportunity to teach a small group of NLPers, on a “open topic” day. We went over waking hypnosis and aspects of running a practice (which I needed, as I was doing that.) I also had several of them show up for some of the group stop smoking/weight loss seminars that I ran while I was in Chicago. This afforded them the opportunity to see another aspect of the skills in action. I only regret that the hypnosis class that happened to be taking place in the same hotel did not come to the sessions. I always wonder how you can not go see someone doing the skills you want to learn. I make it a practice to see the “road” guys when they are in town and the stage shows that play locally. I remember what I heard at a Sports Psychology training, “A true professional works to sharpen all of their skills and learn at every occasion, and complacency is the first step to mediocrity.” I hope I keep this attitude as I progress in this field. I have been doing this professionally for fourteen years, and I am still constantly amazed at all the wonderful information out there that I can learn. I look for good teachers, those who has demonstrated that they can consistently do what they teach, and model them.

Theory into practice:

Opening a new office reminded me of the importance of helping people associate into their pain when they are first showing up for a consultation, or the first session. It may sound negative, but unless the client is fully associated into the pain of the problem (weight, smoking, low self-esteem, etc.) they will not be motivated about changing their lives. Also, they will not notice the change hypnosis/NLP is bringing. To borrow from my years in the addictions field, the more pain (mental, physical, emotional, legal, and/or financial) the client was in, the better he/she responded. Well-meaning family members who are trying to help by blocking some of their loved ones pain, actually end up enabling them to continue the problem. I saw it repeatedly. People were, literally, loving a person to death.

When my ad ran and people called, I reminded myself of two things: one they were curious, and two, they had some sort of pain. When they would ask questions, I would invite them in for a free screening. I will not answer questions over the phone. I do this for two reasons:

One, if I settle their curiosity they will not come in.

Two, if they will not even come in for a free consultation, they are not serious about changing their lives.

I know I cannot help you unless you come in. I also feel (my submodalities) that it is unethical to tell a person how much something will cost, until they are evaluated. (I know I hate when I get a price for a car repair, and then they “discover” other things that need to be fixed).

This idea of associating into the pain is also seen in the truly great speakers. They get you to “feel” the pain, then give you a way out. The way out could be religion, education, better job, new government, and more safety…etc.

We also must look at advertising. Advertisers are the masters of painful associations. Remember the shame of “ring around the collar”, or embarrassment of bad breath? Of course they give the solution, their product!

I know when I did the big public stop smoking seminars, they went better when I had them remember what brought them in: The pain smoking causes, or the financial costs, or family pressure. In fact, the ones who did not do well all thought that smoking was not a real problem. I heard more times than I care to remember, “I had a _____(fill in blank, grandfather, uncle, friend) who lived to be 85 and smoked 2 packs a day.” Which I would respond, “Play Russian Roulette, but with 3 bullets, same odds you’ll end up dead.” I was into tough love years ahead of Dr. Phil.

The good news is, once you associate them into the pain, they will want out, and we have the keys to let them out of the prison of pain. We also release them for good, not a quick fix diet or pill, but a true subconscious release!

Let me know how you motivate people to change.

Technique and Tips:

The SWIM SPOT Technique

L. Michael Hall, Ph.D / Ahmed Hakami

Introduction

We program ourselves every time we set our own maps for the territories “out there.” In this we can say that every single aspect in life is a real part in our programs. In this also we have possibilities of experiencing positive, negative, or mixed programs.

NLP, Neuro-Semantics, and other technologies of that take a solution-focus approach to things work generally on ridding ourselves of negative programs and replacing them with ones that are healthy and positive instead. Most of patterns and techniques are aimed directly to help people to free themselves from the kind of negative thoughts that imprison them.

To make this happen we need many patterns and techniques that work primarily on building the positive solution-focus thinking as a mechanism within our mind-body-emotion system. It is through the ability of being positive solution-focused thinker as a basic characteristic in our personality that we become truly able to face whatever life throws at us in a satisfactory manner.

The following technique is very easy and serves this purpose perfectly. When someone practices it regularly, he or she would have the talent of having the positive solution-focus look in every given situation. The idea comes from two sources. The first from the primary question of Anthony Robbins, “How can I find and appreciate—or even more—the ‘perfection of this moment’?” The second comes from The Matrix Model (2003) by L. Michael Hall.

The Matrix

From the perspective of the Matrix model, we all live within a matrix (i.e., culture, civilization, human conditioning, frame of references, etc.), a matrix that controls all of our systems. We have no choice but to handle things according to our own previous and current programs, which we obtained through education, culture, etc. We can think of those programs as our matrix (our matrix of frames). It is in this way that the Matrix can have us!

When, however, we wake up to the Matrix, then the time comes for us to build a healthy super matrix and let it works for our good. We will create this Matrix consciously and it will grow up to be a very natural part of our mind-body system. As a Matrix, it is mostly content free—just a technology of using our mind in a positive solution-focused way. And when that happens, it becomes a habit of mind.

The Technique

What do we need to set up such a system? What do we need to create a set of frames that represent a solution-focused way of seeing the world?

All we need is to set random alarms that will remind us to stop for a moment, and go directly to our SWIM SPOT. Yes, it is so easy. Now SWIM SPOT is the acronym that Dr. Hall uses for the 7 essential matrices of Neuro-Semantics which spin around any basic neuro-linguistic state. Simply, this means that if you take any thinking-sensing-emoting state, you will find it build up of the meanings we give to these seven category of things. And this, of course, is how “The map is not the territory.” These meanings relate either consciously or unconsciously to our understanding, evaluating, association, classifying, and framing of the 7 essential matrices which are: Meaning, Intention, Self, Power, Time, Others, and World (for more about this, see the references).

Are you ready to build your positive solution-focused Matrix? Good. Then take few deep breathes and relax your body, your mind relaxes soon after. Now gently draw your intention inside, and softly talk to your mind as you let it shift its direction toward the matrices of the positive new state that you want to operate from. Now adopt a positive solution-focus look towards every matrix by giving a short healthy suggestion, quotation, or repeating a affirmation few times. The following offers some examples of this:

Meaning: I have the ability of meaning-making and I give the positive meaning to things and know that I have the right to have only healthy map to any territory. Or, I can and will use healthy labels to name the world I live in.

Intention: My intention is to always get the best of any giving moment, and here I am working on it or on some positive tracks to enrich it.

State: I am mastering my life, as life is all just this moment, this pure given state that I have control of, and control of life as well. Or, I have mastery of this moment.

Self: I will take care of myself and love myself the way I am, and I will enjoy working on perfecting my self in all possible ways. Or I will continue to expand my sense of self-fulfillment.

Power: I have the power and the ability to control my life and to be a positive part in the streaming power of life itself. Or, I will accept and exercise the power of life.

Others: Others, like me, are just different mind-body systems, and all have their angelic side and I will tap to that side of others. Or, I will look for and support the unity of all living beings.

World: My world is wonderful and full with love and peace, and I can easily direct my thoughts to that side of my world or to the beauty of the world.

Time: Time is my ally; this moment has a positive past, enjoyable present, and a healthy future. Or I will focus on living in an eternal moment of happy and pleasant time.

Useful Tips

Practice this technique as many times as possible. Do so until you amaze yourself and others with having a positive solution-focused view about any issue that arises. Also, practice it randomly. Let reminders surprise you. And when you get the reminder in a time that you find it hard to practice, do your best to have a few moments to do it as quickly as possible by scanning all matrices from this kind of positive perspective. Use your imagination and have vivid, exciting, images, sounds and feelings for every matrix. As you keep using the process, vary your suggestions and use metaphors or stories instead of direct suggestions or affirmations. If you practice meditation or self- hypnosis, you can utilize the SWIM SPOT frames to meet your objectives and develop a greater mastery of your matrix.

Conclusion

Robbins wonders how to find and appreciate (even more) “the perfection of this moment.” I understand that a perfection of any moment is a perfect state, a perfect program, a perfect reference, a perfect matrix etc. If so, then the perfection of a moment is the perfection of the state we live in that moment. And the perfection of that state depends obviously on the program (mind-body-emotion interaction) that runs the state. Therefore, having the mechanism of a positive solution-focused perspective (consciously and unconsciously) and by building positive thoughts around essential frames that control our mind-body-emotion s ystem, we build up a healthy system. Then all you need is to enjoy and appreciate the positive side of any given moment of time.

Now, with the Matrix model and the 7 matrices of our frames, we can start working consciously on random moments of our life. By using the SWIM SPOT we can develop that kind of thinking as trait of our personality. And when people begin thinking in this way, they will be able to easily disassociate from limiting states and find solutions for most of problems.

References

http://www.tonyrobbins.com

http://www.neurosemantics.com

Hall, L. Michael (2003). The Matrix Model: The 7 Matrices of Neuro-Semantics. Clifton, CO: Neuro-Semantics Publications.

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