July 2002
Something to think about from Dr. Wil Horton
Captains Chair: I would like to thank all of you for your recent support in expanding NFNLP. We are trying to make NFNLP the premier organization in our field, and your help is needed. Pass on this E-Zine, and let others know they can sign up by contacting us. The Regular newsletter should be arriving at your doorstep any day now. Again please let everyone you know who may be interested about us, we are a team, and together we can make a difference.
I also want to thank those who sent healing energy for my rib injury; it was better until I got kicked again in class, the things we do and call it fun.
I also want to send energy to Beryl Comer on her surgery and Ajamu Ayinde on the loss of his mother. Please send them good thoughts.
Also at the end is some info on two upcoming seminars you should attend. For those of you who want to make a good income in the field of change work, the Practice Builder is a must. The other one is a totally new course being developed. Illuminology, it will be the course of the coming years.
Lastly on seminars, this year at the National Guild of Hypnotists convention, Aug 7- 16, the basic NLP is at the lowest price you will see, if you know of someone who wants to expand have them call us or the NGH to 603-428-9438.
From the Road: This has been a wild month, and one filled with surreal moments, and thoughts of it is a small, small world.
First I went to Dubai and did a Masters course, a sales course, designing your destiny course, and a crisis resolution course. They went over well and were well attended. Thanks to Beryl Comer for her setting this up. This trip also showed me how easy it is to fall into the trap of believing the media, Dubai and the UAE was friendly and glad to work with us. I was in a shop and had a long conversation with an Iranian man, and just like most of us, he is trying to raise his kids, and hopes for a better world. One day after visiting a Mosque (where they had an open forum so non-Muslims could learn about their religion), I went to a Starbucks for coffee, then road in a cab, a Chevy Lumina, where I went to lunch at a TGI Fridays. If that's not enough, one night I was in British pub, after having a Hamburger, I listened to a Sri-Lakian band singing Jimmy Buffet music, that was trance like.
I was then off to India for a Trainers course. As usual, the people were warm and friendly, and eager for NLP. It was great. Thanks to Prakash for his usual great job of setting this up.
On it is a small world note, I was in the Lobby of the Mumbai (Bombay) YMCA getting ready for my class to start, when a gentleman approached me and asked if I was the NLP "guy". I thought he was a student kidding around, after we talked, I found he was a minister from Indianapolis who remembered me from when I was doing some stop smoking seminars, and he sent some of his church members to it. So 10,000 miles from home I meet someone who saw my ad. It truly is a small world.
Theory into Practice: This month from Joe Donahue:
My wife had been discussing family history with her mother and her mother was unable to continue. I was listening and asked if she remembered what the wall was made of right next to her house.... Then..."Did you have a path open or was it narrow...with the house next door right nearby?" (Since this was not a specific 'person' query it became a pattern interrupt, albeit with an indirect focus (the pathway rather than the person
Living in the house), to remember the nearby 'items' which would appear
To have no purpose other than to describe the location.)
She thought for a moment and replied that it was a long path leading down to the back of the house. I let her think for a moment and asked her to describe what the path looked like, the exterior walls of the house, the pathway underfoot...was it dirt or rocks... 'What did it sound like to walk down to the back?"I inquired.
She replied that it made "noise" under her feet... and was composed of 'tiny little rocks". I never used the term image or picture, but substitute "look, feel like, sound it made" and just let her 'slide' into what was an obvious perception from the past. The memories came shortly after have done the same with the question" What was your favorite toy?
And then ask for a description. In this manner the image is produced from a specific memory/object and then grows larger to include other items or events. Usually this results in a flood of memories around the time frame remembered.
The memory object may not be directly related to the person or event of interest but it can accompany that desired remembrance.
One note of caution, however, it may also release unhappy memories that are attached in
Some synaptic manner to these events or items. The person may not identify 'it' as a visual memory...but the effect is the same! Don't be too quick to follow one directive query with another. Keep a safe place to go back to and leave time ...(pacing) between answers and let the good stuff happen. Throw away your own agenda and pay close attention to 'theirs'. Let the magic begin!
Joe Donahue
Techniques and Tips:
As a lot of you know in the last two years I have done over 110 public Stop Smoking seminars, seeing over 12,000 people in groups, and several hundreds one on one, all with good results. Here is a technique that I used in the seminar. I like to share what works, not fluff.
I call it the Smokers swish
Smokers Swish:
First have the smoker think of the most vile disgusting thing they could imagine being placed in their mouths. (Dog crap, maggots, puss from on open wound) The more vile the better.
Second have the soon to be ex-smoker imagine themselves the way they would like their friends and family to see them, The them that would never smoke.
Now do the swish this way;
Have them close their eyes and see their smoke, as it gets covered with the vile disgusting stuff, it will drop away and Swish into the them that would never smoke.
Have them do this several times. Most of the time they will have trouble bringing up the smoke after 5-7 times.
Now place the smoking behavior in that place where you have memories of something you used to do, but now you don't. (Like as a small child, you used to soil yourself, then you learned a new more useful behavior, and left this)
Try this on your next smoker!