Something to think about from Dr. Wil Horton

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Wil’s Log:

I have been blessed to be allowed to teach NLP and Hypnosis to others who want to learn this life-altering technology. As I teach them, I am always amazed at the power of this technology; but if I truly believe it, how do I demonstrate this in the real world? As a person trained in cognitive behavior therapy, I know only behavior can truly be measured, and it is the true demonstration of the inner changes we help people achieve. I truly believe that we should set goals for our selves and then use our skills to test our work. In other words, do you believe in this technology enough to test it in the real world, in your life? As the article later in this e-zine refers to, honesty, especially to your self, is important.

I have been giving this a lot of thought and decided to test it in my physical life. I always tell my clients that your body is formed and maintained at the unconscious level - what you believe to be true. I have seen thousands of clients change their bodies, often in spite of physical liabilities. As a lot of you know, I am a martial artist and like to work out. (OK. It has been stated that I probably have male body disphoria since, for me, working out is like showering. I have to do it.) But since my last knee reconstruction, I have not really ran. I usually curtail my cardio exercise and used the knee problems to reinforce this belief. I would get on the treadmill, run for several minutes, and thought I was going to die. I decided that I would run a sub 10 minute mile. (Six miles an hour equals a ten- minute mile) I gave myself a time frame of a month to do this. I used self-hypnosis and the New Behavior Generator to start the process. I was doing OK when I was reminded about how anchoring can help re-access power states, like we teach in the Circle of Excellence. I used music to bring back those old “up” memories. (Secondary gain, I had to learn to use my I-Pod.) I used music from a time in my life where I could run easily. Once these memories were fired, I felt like I could run. I also started an inner dialog that pushed me. This inner dialog also played into my ego/pride. I made the goal! In fact, I ran a 8 1/2 minute mile; and 9-minute or so I can do a couple of days a week! I will admit I can’t do it two days in a row (yet) as my knee swells up. (Three knee reconstructions can cause problems.) I am amazed at the power of this technology! KEWL as they say!

This led me to try something I honestly was reluctant to attempt. I set a goal to do trainings and not use any “colorful” language. I tried this on my Canada trip. Canadians are polite and nice and I thought this is as good a time as any. Again, I used self-hypnosis and NLP techniques, the New Behavior Generator, and the Swish Pattern. I also kicked in my pride. I challenged myself using inner dialog again. Was I smart enough, or talented enough to express myself without the off-color language? Actually, I did rather well. I made it with no “f” words, swearing, or really off-color stuff. Can I keep these new behaviors going? Time will tell. I have also now upped the stakes by letting all of you, my friends, colleagues, and students know.

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From The Road:

THE FEAR OF TRUTH

By Beryl Comar

It is not easy to be totally truthful with others and often even with ourselves. The main reason for this is our fear or rejection. This fear is often greater even than the fear of death.

We identify our self-worth and consequently our feelings of security with how others perceive us and whether they approve of, accept and love us or not. Because of this we tend to alter our bodies and personalities in order to “protect” our self-worth, security and freedom.

As children we were free to be ourselves and blurt out whatever might be passing through our minds. But eventually our unpleasant experiences with the truth caused us to create what we might call the shadow and the mask. We seek to hide in the shadow whatever we cannot accept about ourselves or fear that might make us vulnerable or not acceptable to others.

We eventually became afraid to share or express our actions, fears, anger, feelings, needs, beliefs and even our love, appreciation and admiration.

Some of us try to become what we believe others want us to be in order to gain their approval and love. This seldom works because others sense the lack of truth in what we are seeking to be for them. As long as we need approval, we are unlikely to get it. Or if we have it, we are unlikely to see or feel it.

Transactional Analysis shows us how we and others seek to protect their needs by laying unpleasant roles such as the interrogator, the intimidator, the victim or the aloof. In such a case, even though we do not seek to be what others want us to be, we are equally not truthful because we are unable to express our happiness, satisfaction, love or needs in a mature way. We are playing a role that does not express our true needs and feelings.

Some people are proud of the fact that they can shout and freely express their anger. What they do not realize that they too are not truthful, because behind all anger is fear, hurt or guilt and they are not expressing the truth behind their anger.

When we are not able to express our beliefs, needs, feelings, ideas, love and appreciation freely, we are blocked energy-wise and are much more susceptible to psychosomatic illness.

In addition to that, we do not have true relationships, because our relationships are based on our masks and not on our true feelings, needs and beliefs. We become starved energy-wise because we do not enjoy true energy exchange with others.

Suppressing these aspects of ourselves and seeking to keep up our mask is a very tiring process that depletes our energy and stamina, both on a psychological and physical level - also undermining the ability of our immune system to deal with microbes, cancerous cells and inflammations.

We can gradually become free to be more truthful about our fears, need, desires, feelings, beliefs, actions, love and admiration as we learn to accept and love ourselves as we are and experience our self-worth regardless of external factors, including how we appear to others and what they think.

We need to realize that our self-worth is a function of our being with is divine in nature and not on how we appear, how much money we have, our profession, how we compare to others, what others think or how they behave towards us.

Each of us is a ray of divine consciousness which is temporarily focused in the material world evolving in its ability to express its inner power, beauty, love and divine perfection in the physical realm. We and all others are always worthy of love and respect - simply because of the nature of our being and not because of our appearance or what others think.

If our self-worth were related to what others think and ten people have ten different opinions - depending on their own needs and programming – then according to whose opinion is our value measured? The usual answer is, “the worse opinion”. We often fetter and worry about one person that does not approve of us - ignoring that fact that the other nine love and accept us.

In the end we will give importance to only one opinion - that our of our inner conscience. We will respect others and their opinions, but in the end our only prerequisite to happiness and peace will be in alignment with our conscience. That means that we feel secure in the fact that we are behaving towards others in the way we would like them to behave to us. This is all we need in order to feel worthy and secure.

We can be truthful about ourselves only when we are free from fear, guilt, shame and in general identification with our temporary body and personality. Meditation and self-observation will enable us to become more detached from the body and mind and observer their various functionings and programmings as - not us. That detachment will enable our clarity and ability to be more truthful about ourselves - perhaps with a sense of humor about our personal dramas - as we take ourselves less seriously.

As we discover exactly what we fear about being more honest about ourselves with the important people in our lives, we can then employ various methods of energy psychology such as EFT, TAT, BSSF, EMDR and Self hypnosis or NLP in order to free ourselves from those fears and emotional blockages.

As we learn to be more truthful, this will become even easier and we will enjoy much greater energy, happiness, creativity and love in our lives.

May you be well on all levels of your being.

Beryl (who recently had to learn to trust intuition and let anger go)

Theory into Practice:

From Dr Kris website: www.askdrkris.com

BOUNDARIES - Definition

The purpose is to make clear separations between different turfs and territories, to define limits and mark off dividing lines. Natural boundaries are part of the way life works, and are aligned with the rules that govern human dynamics.

To see life and who we really are, there is a requirement to look at what we need to accept and what we need and can change. As we take responsibility for our perceptions from what we see, hear and feel, we accept the consequences from our thoughts, feelings, emotions and behaviours. From this information, we set internal boundaries to protect self as we assertively and lovingly meet our needs.

In the process of personal discovery and relationship rejuvenation, you will enjoy a sense of peace and personal fulfillment. In order to have this, it takes courage to change your relationship with life and yourself. Once you have done this, you can make long term changes in your relationships with others.

It is vital that we respect and honour ourselves, so we can awaken to the value from setting boundaries. We let other people know that we have given ourselves permission to deserve and demand respect and to be treated with honour and dignity. It is relatively easy to set boundaries in relationships that do not mean a lot to us, however, we find it more difficult in those that mean the most to us. This is due to our fear that if we set boundaries, people will leave us and we will be left out or left alone. The inner child within us is hesitant because of feelings of being unworthy or gets 'stuck' with underlying feelings of guilt and shame. As a protective measure from present, past or future hurts, we build up thick walls to stop people from getting too close or we sabotage a relationship that we consider is getting too intimate or moving too quickly.

Initially, we need to enhance our level of awareness that we have at least blurred or where there is an absence of boundaries.

We learn...

• how to peel or chip away the walls and protect ourselves in healthy ways
• how to set healthy boundaries
• how to be assertive without being aggressive in defending those boundaries
• how to forgive ourselves for past poor choices and be discerning in future choices
• how to ASK for what we need and expect
• how to acknowledge that we have taught and continue to teach people how to treat us

The next step is to learn how to communicate without blaming and to accept that even in a small way, we may have contributed to our life being what it is and how we are possibly settling for less than we should. On an emotional level, this means taking ownership of self inflicted wounds and not playing the 'blame game'.

As we make a choice to release the sadness, we discontinue the time and energy previously spent on playing the videos from our memories. To start learning who you are, it is necessary to emotionally define yourself as being separate from other people and establishing healthy boundaries.

Action - Write out ten items that you like about yourself that contribute to your uniqueness as a loving human being. Caring thoughts.

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