This technique is not only for love relationships, but friendships or situations that hold a great deal of emotion. A job loss is an example that can be categorized as a broken relationship . When many people lose their jobs (as in the current downsizing economy) they go through more of these grieving/loss feelings than most people realize.

How can we help these people to naturally overcome this grieving/loss experience? I think we can use our tools to speed up the natural process. Have the person think of someone they used to be in a relationship with but now they have no feelings for, maybe a high school love, or an old friend who now is out of his/her life.

The first time I used this I was pleasantly surprised at how well it worked. I had a weight loss client, who appeared very down at one of her follow up sessions, When I inquired into this she told me of her recent break-up with her boyfriend. (I knew from previous conversations that this was an ongoing on again/ off again relationship). I asked her if she would like to be rid of her strong attachment to this relationship, she answered quickly, "YES!" So I walked her through this "How to Mend a Broken Heart" process. I made a note to do a follow-up on her next visit.

Later when she returned I asked her what had happened following our session. She told me the following. "I felt fine after our session but a couple of days later he called and wanted to talk. I told him no. The next day he sent flowers to my work, and called me. I was not interested. The following day he showed up at work with more flowers and a ring. I thought about the past relationship and decided I did not want to get back on the merry-go-round. It was strange. Everything he had just done, the flowers, the calls, and especially the ring, would have swayed me before. Now I felt an emotional distance between us. I finally felt confident in my decision to permanently end the relationship.

At this point I asked her if she would like her attachment for him back, since we could install that, she laughed and said no. The moral, make sure they want to remove the strong feelings.

Here are the steps.

First we must acknowledge the protection process involved.

The part of you that has been protecting you all these years by making you feel bad is an important and valuable part. We want to preserve its ability to protect you in future situations. The purpose of this technique is to refine and improve your brain's ability to protect you by updating its information. We will not remove the memories, just the strong emotional response.

1. With your eyes open or closed, imagine you're sitting in the middle of a movie theater and you see a black and white snapshot of yourself on the screen.

2. Now, float out of your body and up into the projection booth. See yourself sitting in the movie theater seat, and you notice the black and white photo on the screen. You may even wish to imagine Plexiglas over the booth's opening, protecting you.

3. Now, watch protected in the projection booth, as the other you in the movie theatre watches a black and white movie of a younger you going through the entire relationship, the good, the bad, from the first meeting to the end. Watch the whole event, starting before the beginning to the end. Observe until you are beyond the end of it, when everything was OK again.

If you are not fully detached, make the theater screen smaller and farther away. Now make the picture grainier and stop and start the film so that when you're done viewing it, you're completely detached. End the movie after the relationship event, with a freeze frame of yourself.

4. Next, leave the projection booth and slip back into the present you in the theater seat. Step into the freeze photo of the younger you, who is feeling OK again, at the movie's end. This is "double dissociation." Now, run the entire movie of that relationship backwards in color, taking two seconds or less to do so. Be sure to go all the way back to before the beginning. See, hear, and feel everything going backwards in those two seconds or less. Add some circus music, you may want to see your ex-partner with a clown nose, and feet.

5. Repeat this process 2 to 3 times.

6. Now bring up a collage of all the negative times you had with this person. Be honest, all the hurts and slights should be here.

7. Let this fade away into your past.

8. Now bring up an image of this person, and notice all of the connections you have with this person. You may notice cords of light, or energy strings. Pay attention to all the connections. Head to head, heart to heart, sex to sex, spirit to spirit. In whatever way is right for you, cut the cords. You may want to use a silver sword, or special scissors. Once you have cut the cords, reattach them to yourself, and let other person reattach theirs to him/her. Release that person to find his/her highest good, as you release your self.

To test the process, attempt to return to the bad feeling state in any way you can. What if you were faced with that person now? If you still get a negative response, repeat the steps 1 to 8 exactly, but faster each time, until none of the phobic response remains. Thank your higher- self for helping and get on with your life.